"70% of female professionals in Malaysia are unmarried"
Read about it here.
I heard about it on the radio one bright morning, on my way to work. When the newscaster announced it, I went "hah! rite!"...
Then I went on with my usual daily routine. Working from 8.30 am til late.
While driving back home, suddenly it hit me...
"Am I part of the statistics?"
I mean... I'm a female... I am working in the professional line... I am at the prime age of marriage... I am single... So, does that make me part of the statistics?
Thinking back, I guess I do fall under the category of unmarried female professional. And looking at the rate that I am going right now, it will take a miracle for me to even meet a decent guy, court and fall in love, get myself married anytime soon. UNLESS I quit my job.
Why is that so? Well, my job requires me to invest most of my time focusing on the matters at hand. It is very crucial that I get the job done on time as per the required standard or else... "off with her head!"... Being based at the highest end of the accounting hierarchy doesn't make it easier for me at all. The information that I have gathered will be used by the directors for decision making purposes. Hence, all the figures needs to be accurate and reflecting the true and fair view of the group.
The pressure being put on me is indeed too much for me to handle solely. However, I don't have any say in determining the work load that I have to carry. Hence, comes the sleepless nights and restless weekends, working.
Yes, I know that some of you might say that employees actually hold some power/say in a company, without which the company would not be able to function at all. I've told myself over and over again that the company can't even sue me if I were to leave work at 5 pm sharp and don't come to work on weekends. It was never stated in my contract that I have to work over time without any compensation. Nevertheless, me being me, could not just let go of the responsibility handed to me. It is just not right.
After one year being transferred to my current department, I have learnt one very valuable lesson. No matter how much you have invested your time into your work, no matter how perfect you have organised a project, no matter how well you have prepared the reports, your boss will never be satisfied. Instead, they will just demand for more to be done without even giving you any recognition or encouragement to do so. In the end, you will end up losing friends, family and even the chance of being with someone because of your "so-called" commitment with your work.
No.. I don't want to be a part of the statistics. I am planning to leave this "glamorous" profession as soon as the window of opportunity opens up (very soon I hope). I need to get my timing perfect in order for it to work to my benefit. I don't plan to slave myself any longer, doing something that I have fallen out of love with ages ago. Plus, I also don't plan to give my young heart a pre-mature attack due to all the constant screaming and terrible terror at work. All I want is to be free...!
Some of my friends are already thinking of names for their unborn baby, how much to spend for maternity expenses, which doctor is the best in town, a destination for their 2nd honeymoon trip, who's hometown to be spending hari raya haji at and other issues that married couples usually faced with. Somehow, I just can't help myself but to feel left out in most of the conversations amongst friends and colleagues (despite them being considerate enough to venture into other issues just to include me in). I mean, I can't be asking them to change the topic every time I am around rite. That should never be an issue in the 1st place. And I don't feel like finding a new set of unmarried friends just so that I won't feel any pressure of any relationship-like conversation being discussed.
*sigh*
Maybe all these work that are piling up on my plate are driving me insane.
What? Take a break? Holiday? Forget it.. My leave has been frozen until April next year. It is going to be a long FUN 4 months ahead... yeay!
Cheers!
binx: I am NOT part of the statistics!
I heard about it on the radio one bright morning, on my way to work. When the newscaster announced it, I went "hah! rite!"...
Then I went on with my usual daily routine. Working from 8.30 am til late.
While driving back home, suddenly it hit me...
"Am I part of the statistics?"
I mean... I'm a female... I am working in the professional line... I am at the prime age of marriage... I am single... So, does that make me part of the statistics?
Thinking back, I guess I do fall under the category of unmarried female professional. And looking at the rate that I am going right now, it will take a miracle for me to even meet a decent guy, court and fall in love, get myself married anytime soon. UNLESS I quit my job.
Why is that so? Well, my job requires me to invest most of my time focusing on the matters at hand. It is very crucial that I get the job done on time as per the required standard or else... "off with her head!"... Being based at the highest end of the accounting hierarchy doesn't make it easier for me at all. The information that I have gathered will be used by the directors for decision making purposes. Hence, all the figures needs to be accurate and reflecting the true and fair view of the group.
The pressure being put on me is indeed too much for me to handle solely. However, I don't have any say in determining the work load that I have to carry. Hence, comes the sleepless nights and restless weekends, working.
Yes, I know that some of you might say that employees actually hold some power/say in a company, without which the company would not be able to function at all. I've told myself over and over again that the company can't even sue me if I were to leave work at 5 pm sharp and don't come to work on weekends. It was never stated in my contract that I have to work over time without any compensation. Nevertheless, me being me, could not just let go of the responsibility handed to me. It is just not right.
After one year being transferred to my current department, I have learnt one very valuable lesson. No matter how much you have invested your time into your work, no matter how perfect you have organised a project, no matter how well you have prepared the reports, your boss will never be satisfied. Instead, they will just demand for more to be done without even giving you any recognition or encouragement to do so. In the end, you will end up losing friends, family and even the chance of being with someone because of your "so-called" commitment with your work.
No.. I don't want to be a part of the statistics. I am planning to leave this "glamorous" profession as soon as the window of opportunity opens up (very soon I hope). I need to get my timing perfect in order for it to work to my benefit. I don't plan to slave myself any longer, doing something that I have fallen out of love with ages ago. Plus, I also don't plan to give my young heart a pre-mature attack due to all the constant screaming and terrible terror at work. All I want is to be free...!
Some of my friends are already thinking of names for their unborn baby, how much to spend for maternity expenses, which doctor is the best in town, a destination for their 2nd honeymoon trip, who's hometown to be spending hari raya haji at and other issues that married couples usually faced with. Somehow, I just can't help myself but to feel left out in most of the conversations amongst friends and colleagues (despite them being considerate enough to venture into other issues just to include me in). I mean, I can't be asking them to change the topic every time I am around rite. That should never be an issue in the 1st place. And I don't feel like finding a new set of unmarried friends just so that I won't feel any pressure of any relationship-like conversation being discussed.
*sigh*
Maybe all these work that are piling up on my plate are driving me insane.
What? Take a break? Holiday? Forget it.. My leave has been frozen until April next year. It is going to be a long FUN 4 months ahead... yeay!
Cheers!
binx: I am NOT part of the statistics!
14 comments:
hear hear. I usually lapse into a silent mode when my friends start talking abt babies, honeymoons, holidays, etc. I don't mind listening. Just don't force me into contributing to the conversation when I'd much prefer to blend in with the background, heheh.
girly, u won't be part of the so-called statistics if u don't wanna be ;)
Oh.. did you read the article yesterday? Men are to blame for such statistic to rise..
Lelaki jugak yg kena.. hahahaha..
Dunt worri la, me also part of the statics..NOT!! I mean My age does not seems that crucial to be part of the statics..Its all mental gurl, as long as u happy, unpressurized, let it go, being married does not necessarily will make your life happier..rite?
So lets enjoy the single life..
Don't worry la Binx. When the right guy, it will all worth it :-)
may:
i dont think i like blending in the background too much.. hence, i dont mind joining in the conversation.. hehehe
amir:
lelaki mmg.....!
rj:
i think i had been enjoying single life long enuf... hehehe
omecool20:
no no i'm not that worried..
was just being the drama queen me aje
;)
3six7:
ermm u really wanna know who wrote it? it's the deputy prime minister's wife.. hahaha..
yes yes.. i'll keep the advice in mind.. thanks!
First of all, don't let the statistics bother. You are incharge of your own life, not a bunch of numbers and graphs.
This thing about women and career. As feminist as I am, I think there is some truth in it. One who chooses career, will find it difficult to sacrifice time for relationships. This is the reality of things. We can't have it all. If we want a relationship, we have to give up something else. In this case, career. Its a give and take. Nowadays, women opt for career. I do. And I feel something is amiss. Although I am married, we have no children. I just don't find the time to commit to children. But deep down, something is missing.
So I am making a change. I work, because its something that I enjoy. My family will come first. If I have a career (note the difference between a job and a career) despite putting my family first, then it is a bonus.
I don't consider myself a professional, yet.. so me not part of the stats eh? :D
no leave until April? so how to get authentic Nasi Dagang in Ganu before I leave?
lin:
thanks for sharing ur thought..
i wanna be like u when i grow up.. hahaha..
but seriously.. i get what u r trying to say
ubisetela:
in denial eh? hehehe... kidding..
maybe u r not..
u kan baru 16.. *winks*
wah... authentic nasi dagang tuh... ermm maybe we can do it over the weekend.. or better yet.. u come over to ttdi and we have it at my house.. what say u?
binx,
counting the days to my final yr of twentysmtg :(
nasi dagang at yr house? U masak, can? me tak lulus buat nasi dagang la.
ubi:
26th rite? hehehe.. still young maa...
make sure u celebrate it with style k..
me masak? i tot u were suppose to bring the authentic nasi dagang over.. me sediakan the plates k.. *winks*
I'm worried about me.....and I'm a man. Insane? Yeah, you can say that again. Or is it gatal?
Anyhowwww.... suma nie rezeki,jodoh. Anytime jer, tup2 depan mata u. I believe we'll know when the time come.
i'm 32 and still not married. hopefully a candidate pops up soon enough coz in my family history there's not any of their sons not married until the age of 35, so I'm not planning on breaking that family record!
Either way, its a phase, realising that slaving away at work(or what most of us call as 'responsiblity') has taken away some parts of ourlives and STILL slaving away...
I think I need that coffee right about now...
izira:
insyallah.. only time will tell..
designjunkie:
u still have 3 more yrs to go buddy.. hang in there...
jom starbucks!
:d
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