Just got back from a wedding tonight. It was the 3rd wedding I have attended so far of my ex-TTDI schoolmates. 1 was back in 2000 (the couple now has 2 daughters), and the other one was in 2003 (the couple now has a daughter too) and the other one was tonight.
The best part about tonight was when I went to picked up a friend before the wedding.
Friend: So, how have you been? It has been a while since we last saw you...
Binx: Yeah.. true.. I've been hibernating in the office laa you
Friend: How come I never see you at other weddings? Ramai jugak yang dah kawin..
Binx: Err.. maybe because I was not invited kut..
Friend: Eh.. errr serious? Takkan laa they didn't invite you?
Binx: Yeah.. but I guess it's ok.. Partly my fault also for not keeping in touch with them all...
Friend: (guilty tone) Ooook.. Takpe laa kut...
During the wedding, I met most of my ex-schoolmates, along with their husband/wife, fiance and boyfriend/girlfriend. It was such an awkward moment. Especially when I was seated between two good friends that kept exchanging updates about other weddings that they have attended. Orang tuh kawin, orang nieh kawin... It seems that almost everyone that I know is married (according to my friend laa.. "semua orang dah kawin..!").. *yawnnnnn*
I can't help but to feel a bit left out during the whole ceremony. But I didn't want to be pretentious by dragging along a guy just so as to not be singled out among the crowd. Plus I didn't want to have to explain to everyone that the guy was just a friend and keep getting the "uh.. yeah rite.. friend..". The last time I did that I ended up in a big mess.
To sidetrack a bit, why would people assume that when a guy and a girl go out, that they are actually a couple? They can be friends or colleagues accompanying each other to a function or on a shopping excursion to find a birthday/wedding gift for friends.
I was really stunned (jaw-dropping kinda stunned) yesterday when a promoter at one of the beauty counter at a mall actually called me and Izzy (an annoying colleague), a couple. "Biasa laa... orang tengah bercinta.." URGHHH! 1. He was just accompanying me in search for a birthday present for a dear friend, 2. We were not in any lovey dovey situation that would have prompted such remark from the mak nyah promoter, 3. I was actually whacking his head for cracking stupid joke about the promoter... Apa yang bercinta nya? I don't get it!
After today, I have made a vow to myself, to avoid attending any more weddings until I am ready to face such situations again. I'll try my best to dodge the bullets (wedding invitations) by doing the same thing that I've been doing so far, burying myself in work and studies. I just hope that I will not bury myself in too deep, that "the one" will not be able to find/see me underneath all those files and books.
binx: run binx..... run.........
10 comments:
Ah, dear Binx, u cannot say no. Must attend mah.. nanti they owe it to come to yours. :-) All you need, if u r attending on your own, is be creative with your answers. U'll get the hang of it ;-) .. lagipun, it is great as weddings are a good way in catching up with old friends. Don't lose heart, amigo.
Yep, it is kind of a bummer when u keluar dgn the opposite sex, but .. kalau your conscience is clear .. no worries ;-)
ps/ tq for posting the video, I terus downloaded the mp3. The song is pretty cool. Does Sept means Sept 11 ? hmm..
omecool20:
those invites that i receive i will for sure try to attend laa.. but selagi boleh avoid frm getting the invites, i will..
my conscience is always clear bcoz on my part we r friends. however, i am never a good mind reader and sometimes ends up in a very twisted situation.
enjoy the song dude..!
iklan jap. don't wan to feel left out? Bring a guy along! afraid that ppl will mistaken him for your bf? bring teek along!!!! *nasi orang kawin..yumms*
teek:
u sure if i ask u to tag along u'll go?
how come it is hard for me to digest that fact? :p
shud:
girl.. it actually has nothing to do about being strong or weak.. it's just that all the talk about marriage makes me yawn.. luckily i managed to deviate the conversation to asset management and etc with my friend's husband (yeah.. at least it's better than then kawin topic what)
hey how come i never knew that u have a blog? as a matter of fact more than one blog..
:p
3six7:
as always, i agree with ur perspective, totally! i have lots of guy friends. it is just that ppl tend to take the wrong way whenever we go out..
my ex once said that in his book, platonic r/ship doesn't exist. according to him, a guy would never be-friend a girl without any romantic intention.. urgh.. *rolled eyes*
guy-girl friendship is different.. somehow what you share with ur girlfriends and what u share with ur guy friends are totally different things..
hehe laa binx kalau nak sangat date hehe shud have just ajaked myself. hahah. i also do weddings. haha ;)
acat:
well, but u were busy hunting down clues all over town laa dude... maybe next time..
errmm.. got service charge tak?
;)
ja dahling
it will never end... first if u attend a wedding alone people will ask tak de bf ke, pas tu kalau ada bf, bila nak tunang, then bila bwk tunang, bila nak kawin, bila dah kawin, org tanya bila nak ada anak, bila dah ada satu anak org tanya pulak "sorang ajer ke?", and then kalau ada boys only org tanya pulak tak nak girl ke... yada yada yada....
so if u get invites, just go to see yr friends/relatives and enjoy the nasik kenduri... kalau org tanya bila pulak yr turn jawab ajer "september"... tahun bila tu let them guess.. and also say "nanti datang kad tu ada lah tu..." :D
binx..
all u need is just be care- less of what they are asking...even if u are trapped into that kind-a-conversation all u need is to keep updated and tell them ur future plans ( bila nak kawin, bila nak tunang, bula nak ada anak) even its not true (hahaha...gelaks)
cik_dee:
urrgghh.. the never ending Qs.. *rolled eyes*.. usually i'll say "after raya".. raya bila or tahun apa tak tau lerr..
*winks*
anonymous:
hey thanx for the input..
however, these ppl really take ur words seriously.. hence, i dare not say anything.. baik duk diam.. once org pop up the Q, excuse myself to the ladies..
:D
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